The introduction to the Church in Wales Marriage Service describes marriage as a gift from God. The Bible teaches that marriage is a life-long, faithful union between a man and a woman, and compares married love with the love Jesus has for his people – a love expressed in his willing sacrifice of himself on the cross.
Marriage is a gift of God through which husband and wife may grow together in the knowledge, love and service of God. It is given that, united with one another in heart, in mind and in body, they may increase in love and trust. God joins husband and wife in life-long union as the foundation of family life (in which children are born and nurtured and) in which each member of the family, in good times and in bad, may find strength, companionship and comfort, and grow to maturity in love. Marriage enriches society and strengthens community.
from the Church in Wales order for Holy Matrimony
Jesus therefore sets the greatest example of unconditional, self-sacrificial love – a model that husband and wife can seek to follow in the way they love one another, each putting the other’s needs first. At the heart of the marriage ceremony is the exchange of vows, in which a couple make a public declaration of lifelong commitment to love each other, whatever the future may bring.
Christians believe that in marriage we find the proper expression of our sexuality, a secure environment for bringing up our children, and an important element of stability for the wider community.
Thinking of getting married at St David’s or St Tim’s?
If you are considering whether or not to marry in St. David’s or St. Timothy’s one of you must live in the Parish of Caerau with Ely. This is the law of the land, and nothing to do with the Church. You must also be over 16 years of age.
If either of you has been divorced it may not be possible to marry in church, and you will need to speak with the Parish Priest.
Please contact the parish priest before you choose a date to make sure that the church is available.
There are some legal formalities
Although your marriage is in Church there are some legal formalities that have to be carried out.
Your BANNS OF MARRIAGE will need to be read out in church, in each place that you live. This means that on three Sundays before you are married the priest has to announce in church your intention to marry.
If you live in different parishes you will have to arrange for the Banns to be read in both churches. It is your responsibility to visit the other parish priest and ask for this to be done. You will need to collect from the priest a certificate showing that no-one objected to the wedding, for which you have to pay. This certificate must be brought to the priest who is to perform the wedding ceremony.
Without this certificate you cannot be married.
The ceremony that takes place in Church cannot be altered or amended to suit individual requirements. It is not possible to write your own vows, or to add anything to the vows. The bride no longer promises to ‘obey’ – today the emphasis is on sharing responsibilities, possessions and love.
The parish priest has the final say on any music that you may wish to play. Traditionally, two hymns are sung during the service. You do not have to sing hymns, but you cannot replace the hymns with non-Christian, non-religious songs.
How much will it cost?
The Church in Wales follows the fees set by Parliament for the Church of England. These fees increase every January. The fees set out below are for 2007
The total is £322.00 and is made up as follows:
Notice of wedding £20.00
Donation to the Church £122.00
In addition there are fees for the organist and the person who helps prepare the church and cleans after the service. These are set by the parish.
Remember, the fee you will be charged will be the fee in force the year you get married.